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Coming Home

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A friend kindly sent me this photograph of my driveway in Maine. It was a long winter there, as it was everywhere in New England, and I have not been able to go to Maine since Christmas, so it is a treat to see my daffodils in bloom, such a reminder that May does follow the cruelest month, and that things are renewed again and again.


I have been mostly silent on this blog because for 18 days I have been spending hours each day in the hospital at Martin's bedside and have been wrung out by evening. Friends have stopped by again and again, bringing food and wine and conversation and sympathy and yes, even laughter , such an important commodity in tough times.

Tomorrow he will be discharged and I will take care of him myself with help from Hospice nurses and aides. It won't be easy. But if it's possible, people should be in their homes, with their famliies...and dogs! Martin is so eager to see Alfie!...as their lives come to an end.  Hospitals are astonishingly noisy; privacy is a lost cause; the food sucks; and there is never a parking place. Aside from that?...well, the doctors and nursing staff are dedicated and compassionate (though overworked) and the technology is state of the art. There is much to marvel at and to be grateful for.

But now it is time to come home.


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Jacqueline Briggs Martin Monday, 29 November 1999

Lois, your photos are wonderful. The flowers and the gray Maine rocks--especially the peonies and the columbine with the gray Maine rock in the background. Even more wonderful is the grace with which you bear bereavement.

ojimenez Monday, 29 November 1999

"At the age of eleven or thereabouts women acquire a poise and an ability to handle difficult situations which a man, if he is lucky, manages to achieve somewhere in the later seventies. "
— P.G. Wodehouse

James Preller Monday, 29 November 1999

I don't visit many blogs these days, and in fact, try not to. But I'll stop in here from time to time, always drawn back by your great good sense, your humanity, your spirit, your aliveness.
Even in a time of loss, you give us light.
Great blog, great books, great life. Thank you.

Lois Lowry Monday, 29 November 1999

Thank you, James. I don't read many blogs either, I think because it is too easy to waste (is it really wasting? Yes, I guess it is) time by peering into the lives of strangers. But there is occasionally a nice feeling of communication, either from reading...or writing...a blog post.

ojimenez Monday, 29 November 1999

Perhaps by blogging we share our experiences with people of similar tastes, interests and values, on a more immediate way, with the same urgency story tellers have been sharing their tales throughout history to help us feel less alone in the world?

Amanda Foong Monday, 29 November 1999

I neither surf the net much or do any online blogging but i found myself caught up in this. One thing that has became part of my life is to stop by at your blog and your official website, reading great experiences from you and how you face up to life, how you manage to be independent. You have created a significant impact in my life through all your books and your experiences you share.
Thanks alot! <3

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